Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Minneapolis-based relationships expert Kailen Rosenberg paid a house call to Atlanta over the weekend.
Luckily for us, “The Love Architect,” who normally dispenses advice on “Today” and “Good Morning America,” took the time to pass along some relationship tips to The City Not Too Busy To Throw An Elbow In The Greeting Card Aisle Of Publix (We personally witnessed this behavior on Friday afternoon and it frightened us profoundly).
While most guys are panicking today while cursing the Open Table app on their smart phone because the only remaining restaurant reservations are for 2:30 A.M. Tuesday, Rosenberg suggests something radical. Turn off your phone and focus on your Sig Other.
“The very sad, very real truth is, all this technology at our fingertips actually keeps us more disconnected,” Rosenberg explains. “We get so caught up in the rat race that we forget what’s important. Like everything else in our lives, relationships require our attention. The simple act of touching someone’s face or arm can work wonders. It doesn’t have to be sexual either. Just slowing down for a minute can be an amazing gift.”
But if you’re completely addicted to that vibrating box in your pocket, Rosenberg suggests using it for good today to send a heart-felt, love-themed text to your loved one. FYI: “Can U pick up Brittney @ Suzuki violin lesson? I’m stuck @ the Wendy’s drive-thru ordering dinner” does not count.
Rosenberg says that guys need not rush out to the jewelry store today either. “You can create a fun gift bag filled with her favorite candies, gum, magazines or other guilty pleasures,” she suggests. “It’s a gift that says ‘I get you and I’m paying attention to you.’ Women are always gratified by that.”
For single folks, Rosenberg does not dismiss online dating options as long as you proceed with caution. “It can be very useful,” she says. “There are lots of great people online but you need to be hyper aware. Be truthful, be real and don’t be afraid to be a little silly when writing your profile.”
After initial flirting, Rosenberg strongly urges her clients to get into an extensive chat online or by phone to learn more about the person before proceeding to meet in a public place for that first date.
She admits her best dating tip is far from romantic but critical in our modern high tech world: Suggest a background check for both you and your potential suitor. “Plenty of clients have come back to me and said, ‘I can’t believe it. He didn’t hang up on me!’ It’s a great way to build trust and establish honesty very early in the relationship.”
Not to mention a handy way to sift out the half-naked, married Congressmen who are putting the moves on your Craigslist singles ad. . .